24-Broken Things

 

 

    Years ago I went to a fancy dinner party at a friend's house. She is sort of a Martha Stewart type. Everything in her house is perfect. She loves to decorate and set a beautiful table. She cooks a gourmet meal with special place settings at the table. When I go, I am sure to use my best table manners.

 

   During dinner, a Christmas wreath hung over the buffet suddenly fell and broke one of her serving dishes. She was so shocked and upset that she couldn't even speak. I understood why she was upset, however from my perspective, broken dishes were a normal thing in my house. If it had been my house, I would have blown it off, picked up the broken pieces, and finished dinner. I probably would have even laughed and made a joke. Actually, if it was at my house, we probably would have been eating on plastic dishes or paper plates, because that's what our life was like!
  The truth was, during the years Robbie was growing up, we rarely had anyone over. The house was too much of a disaster and it was too stressful to cook for people, and the messy house was embarrassing. Robbie had broken a lot of things in the house. He slammed the doors so all the doors were broken off the hinges, he broke my kitchen cabinets, all my dishes, videos, VCR's, video cameras etc. But you know what? It taught me something. Material things just really aren't that important!

 

    I don't worship my house or my car or my things. I don't need to keep up with the Jones's. It's trivial nonsense. Remember, I do Interior Design and I am in hundreds of beautiful homes all the time. So this was a really hard lesson for me to learn. Sometimes I got depressed over it. But I had to remind myself to remember the big picture of what life is really about, my family. People are important, pillows are not! LOL
    In today's video I'll show you old video and pictures of things Robbie has broken over the years. It's not to complain, but to show other parent's of Autistic kids that they are not alone, and there are other people out there that live the same way. And my other point is, to those parents, don't be like me and wait until things are so bad and "broken" beyond repair that you can't take it anymore. Don't wait to ask for help.

23-Movie Night and Mother's Day

I don't think I've seen as many rainbows in my entire LIFE

as I have seen this month of May, 2014!

 

 

 

My son David plays baseball and many nights we were watching the sky, concerned that lightening would be on it's way. They would stop the game for a temporary downpour and then the sun would come back out, we'd see a rainbow, and resume play.

 

 

 

 

This seems to be the story of my life with Robbie. We have ups and downs, good days and bad days. He may get sick, or get violent, but the episodes quickly pass and when he smiles he can light up the whole world.

His smile is as beautiful as a rainbow!

 

 

I could get really philosophical about this, but I'll keep it light. But rainbows really are a perfect example of how we can weather through a violent storm, and then witness something truly beautiful as the sun shines once again. I am amazed even as I watch my own videos how our lives daily dip up and down, and how quickly they turn from good, to bad, to good again. Like little mini thunderstorms. But then as the clouds dissipate, a ray of sunshine peaks through, and sometimes, we have great days, as beautiful as rainbows.

 

 

 

 

 

   In our first video I take Robbie to movie night at church. This is typically for families of little kids who come and lay down on blankets and watch cartoons. But they have Robbie's favorite things:

Pizza, soda and Disney movies! So I took him. While we were inside it poured and when we left there was a big, huge, beautiful rainbow in the sky on our ride home.

 

MOVIE NIGHT

 

 

Next is Mother's Day. We had beautiful weather that day so my daughter Denise suggested we take Robbie for a ride down the shore. Now, some may say "to the beach" but in New Jersey, we say we're going "down the shore". The water's too cold in May, but he enjoyed sitting in the chair watching the waves. The whole day was wonderful until I took him home and no one was there. He got annoyed that he had to wait and didn't want to get back in the car, so he ran away. I won't tell you what happens next, you'll have to watch and see!

 

MOTHER'S DAY MISHAP

 

Like I said, life is full of rainy days, as well as sunshine and rainbows. There are ups and there a downs, literally! LOL

I hope your life gives you many rainbows!